How to Talk to a Drug Addict

If you have an addict in the family, they are certainly aware that bringing up the issue of drug addiction is like playing with fireworks in a burning house. They blow up more often.

What is the real cause of this? On the surface it seems that they are "just fine" in the subject. But to say that are just fine not lead to a solution. Why are so sensitive? How do you get around the booby traps in the conversation and a real debate to the point of the problem?

There is a way, a way you can talk openly and freely with them about drugs and behavior and even the possibilities of getting help for addiction.

But to get open, you have to make some changes in the way they are talking about them. I know, I know, the problem is totally yours, not yours, right?

Incorrect.

If you really want to help that person, you have to forget all the problems facing the problems of their behavior is causing. This is not about you, the person is addicted to drugs, your daughter, your son, your spouse, whatever.

If you want them to be strong enough to discuss the problem, you must lead the way by being yourself strong and loose all their anger, their fear and worries and resentments.

Remember that the person is addicted to drugs is the use of drugs because of a weakness. Everyone has weaknesses, but the addict now has right of weakness in the same areas that lead to addiction to drugs or other addictive behavior, or obsession potential. He or she probably feels terrible about the whole situation and not going to help you to come and point out the obvious.

You need to make the addict feel that telling the truth is not going to open another round of recriminations. Nobody likes to feel stupid, especially someone with nerves exposed, like the drug addict. Make him or her feel as if it is completely safe to talk freely with you. You should not feel bad or poor opening, even when you say something shocking. You must maintain a stable level and allow the relief to continue.

They are desperately trying to cling to a shred of pride. You let them have it if you want a meaningful dialogue.

If you can listen carefully without gasping or show your shock, incredulous, and if you can get the addict to understand that you do not think he or she an idiot or a criminal, is a good time to discuss the options open to recovery of addiction.

Remember, you must be strong enough for both of you, keep your cool and your eyes on the goal of a safe space in which the addict feels that it is possible bares his soul and move on.

Believe me, after taking the drug addicts for many years, I know this is half the battle of rehabilitation. You have done a tremendous amount by just getting some kind of clear communication open between you and the drug addict.

And when you have clean, open communication flowing ... get a treatment center, now! Do not wait until all profits to evaporate, seize the moment and call a good school, drug free treatment and recovery process to get started.

Good luck. I hope that the success